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June 30th, 2009
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Mark Sanford Makes Me Sick
I have a friend who has been asking why we should care about the private lives of politicians. I don't know why I care, entirely, but I fo find him truly revolting. Here's a guy who:



- Said that Clinton had lost his "moral legitimacy" as POTUS when it was revealed he had had sex outside of his marriage, called for his resignation and voted for his impeachment

- Said this about politicians who lie about affairs "The issue of lying is probably the biggest harm, if you will, to the system of Democratic government, representative government, because it undermines trust. And if you undermine trust in our system, you undermine everything."

- is opposed to legal recognition of same-sex marriage because he believes it hurts the sacred institution of marriage

- had an affair with at least one woman for at least one year

- agreed to end the affair only after his wife found out about it

- didn't end the affair in spite of agreeing to

- sneaked off to see his lover, absenting himself from his work, his state, and his country without telling anyone where he was going, including his four sons, including being gone on Father's Day weekend

- Suggested to his staff that he was hiking the Appalachian Trail, leaving them not knowing what to say particularly when his security detail found out he had been in Atlanta, near the airport

- revealed that he had been in Argentina only when a reporter met him at the airport when he got off the plane

- still did not reveal the affair until he was told that a local newspaper had emails between him and his lover and would read them at the press conference if he didn't tell first

- went on about his "dear, dear friend" and "crying in Argentina for five days" and generally tried to paint himself as a sympathetic figure (and I'm sick that so much of the media have bought that, looking on this as #$%#$^#$ romantic)

- asked for forgiveness of just about everyone but never showed any kind of remorse for anything but having sex outside of marriage - nothing about the deceit, dereliction of duty, etc.

- lectured his *staff* on their moral responsibility to do their jobs flawlessly even when the governor falters

- compared himself to King David and said that he would continue and rebuild


Here's a guy who's moralistic about others and who lies constantly except when forced to tell the truth. The man's arrogance, self-absorption, and obtuseness know no bounds. I am reminded once again of something I learned - the hard way - from an ex-partner of mine:

Being completely self-absorbed doesn't necessarily lead to being self-aware.

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From:talktooloose
Date:June 30th, 2009 07:50 pm (UTC)
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Last line = gold.

In fact, it blocks self-awareness, because self-awareness is an outgrowth of empathy.
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From:mofic
Date:June 30th, 2009 10:58 pm (UTC)
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Yes, good point.
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From:brak666
Date:June 30th, 2009 09:32 pm (UTC)
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It's the hypocrisy that pushes it over the edge for me. If he hadn't said all those things then I'd be saying that this is a private issue between him and his wife and none of our business. But by saying all those things and holding himself up as some paragon as morality, he's made his behavior our business.
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From:executrix
Date:June 30th, 2009 10:51 pm (UTC)
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I'm with brak666--I mean, I can't *imagine* a French or Italian politician getting in trouble for having a mistress, but then they don't go around calling themselves (literally) God's gift to the electorate.
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From:mofic
Date:June 30th, 2009 10:57 pm (UTC)
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The hypocrisy definitely bothers me, but it's more than that. I think having sex outside of his marriage is the least of what he did. Chez moi, governor is a job where you don't get to just up and leave for several days without saying where you're going - it's totally irresponsible. And father and husband are roles where that's totally irresponsible, as well. And then for him to act as if the only error is *sexual*, and like a reformed sinner (when he only 'fessed up because he got caught) is just over the top.

I could identify with all sorts of people in this (wife, kids, staff, electorate, reporters) and in all of my imaginings I wanted to kill him.
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From:lilacsigil
Date:July 1st, 2009 12:57 am (UTC)
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It's the hypocrisy that does it for me - if he was just some regular guy cheating on his family, well, that's between him and his family. But he has the platform and the power to harm other families (that he doesn't like) through both his actions and through the perceptions he creates. Not to mention leaving an entire state in the lurch. And he lies, and lies, and lies, and thinks it's okay because he's a powerful white man with an adorable romantic narrative.
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From:tarchannon
Date:July 1st, 2009 01:48 am (UTC)
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You neglected that this was one of the fellas that was grandstanding over the ARRA - the stimulus pachage - saying that he was not going to accept the money because *he* didn;t agree with the federal government (aka Obama and the Dems) doing it. Meanwhile, the SC schools are at the very bootom of the nation, and poor rural black areas literally have school where you can see daylight though the holes in the roof and sewage from the broken bathrooms runs down the halls of schools in session. A very precocious 16 year old white girl took him to court over this and won, forcing him to accept the ARRA money, at least 250 million of which was federally earmarked for school improvements that were desperately needed. Sanford is a poor excuse for a human being in my book, and this reveal of world-class hyproctisy was totally expected by me. I'm just glad that it's happening in a place and time where it will cost him dearly. As Martha says, it's a good thing. :D
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From:tarchannon
Date:July 1st, 2009 04:26 am (UTC)
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(And in case you haven't noticed, I'm a terrible typist when I'm in a rush... which is most of the time. :P )
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From:mofic
Date:July 1st, 2009 10:39 am (UTC)
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LOL! Don't worry about the typing.

The stimulus stuff doesn't bother me as much. I think it's terrible policy, but it's what he ran on and what people knew they were voting for with him. I'm glad he didn't get his way, of course, but it doesn't make me sick that he wanted to stick by his completely wrongheaded views.
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From:chimosa
Date:July 1st, 2009 03:14 am (UTC)
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wait wait- he thinks he's king david-like? wooooow. wow. i hadn't heard that, thats just. wow.


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From:mofic
Date:July 1st, 2009 10:44 am (UTC)
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Jon Stewart did a funny bit about how these conservative Christians look to *our* book when they can't find what they want in theirs, but otherwise ignore it. And, of course, King David ended up with the woman he had the affair with - managing it by having her husband killed.

It will be interesting to see what happens with his marriage. His wife is a "good Christian woman" who's willing to take him back if he stops fucking other women, since she believes in the sanctity of marriage. OTOH, now he's said publicly that he's never been in love with his wife, that he had assorted erotic encounters with a variety of women although never "sex" (which presumably means PVI to him) until Maria, and that Maria is his soulmate. I can't imagine it feels particularly affirming to be told "I'll have sex with you because God wants me to, but I'll be thinking about my soulmate." And less so if the whole world knows it...

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