1. Leave me a comment saying anything random, like your favorite lyric to your current favorite song.
2. I respond by asking you five personal questions so I can get to know you better.
3. You will update your LJ with the answers to the questions.
4. You will include this explanation and offer to ask someone else in the post.
5. When others comment asking to be asked, you will ask them five questions.
lunabee asked me:
What is attachment parenting?
Attachment parenting (AP) is both a parenting philosophy and a set of parenting practices. I follow(ed) a lot of the practices although I don't fully buy the philosophy.
The theory of attachment parenting is that by engaging in certain practices that facilitate a very strong attachment to the parent(s) during the early years of childhood the parents foster optimal social and emotional development of the child. Some of these practices, or "tools of attachment," are: extended breastfeeding, co-sleeping, positive discipline, baby wearing, minimal separation of parent and child.
I did most of those, although sometimes for somewhat different reasons than the True Believers within the AP community. I breastfed for a total of 8 years (which is a lot for North America, particularly considering I only gave birth to two of my kids); I wore babies/toddlers for a long time, I've had a kid or kids in my bed more often than not; I'm a strong believer in positive discipline. But I didn't do the minimal separation thing and, in fact, returned to work full time (60 or more hours of separation per week) when each of my kids was eight weeks old. I do not think that having a parent at home is essential or even necessarily a positive thing. My ex was at home full time for many years, and it's something that I wish had not happened and feel was bad for our family.
What attracts you to the Scott/Logan ship?
A few things. I think what originally attracted me to explore the idea of them as a couple was what seemed to be the intensity of their feelings towards each other in the first movie. They definitely didn't like each other, but each reacted strongly to the other. shadowscast says that what makes two characters slashable is emotional intensity, and I think that was evident in their interactions. I saw a lot of potential for a slash equivalent of the common heterosexual trope where two characters profess to dislike each other but the reader/viewer knows that the dislike is masking attraction.
Also, I wanted to try writing a gay, closeted Cyclops since I think his canonical characteristics fit in very well with someone deep in the closet. I needed a presence in his life that would challenge the life he'd made for himself and his conviction that he could through pure force of will just get over being gay. Logan seemed like a good guy to challenge that, for his own reasons. In the early stories, my fiction has them build a relationship of sorts out of intersecting neuroses.
Over time, I found other reasons to like them as a couple. They're very different but in ways that they can learn from each other, which I think is often the case with strong couples. Being with Logan pulls Scott to come out of the closet, challenges Scott to temper his need for rules and order, and helps Scott think about what he really wants out of life. Being with Scott challenges Logan's solitary nature, pushes him to take risks in interpersonal relationships, makes him think about what he wants out of life.
They also have a lot in common, even if that's not immediately apparent. They both are really drawn to being part of a combat team, even if for Scott it's strategy and tactics and accomplishing the mission that's the draw while for Logan it's the fighting itself. They both really understand - in a way that few others can - what it means to be dangerous to the people you care about. They develop over time a shared purpose and shared vision that I think can be a real bond for couples.
Oh and they're also really funny together in a snarky kind of way, which I found really appealing in the movie and think translates well to fanfic.
If money were no object, what would you purchase right this minute?
Hmmm, my first thought was to say a house, but you can't purchase a house "right this minute." So... if money were no object I'd buy pampering, which I could do right now. I'd call up this lovely day spa I know and ask for a nice long massage appointment, plus a facial, and then languish in their jacuzzi.
Favorite things to do in New York City?
- Theatre. I love Broadway, and there's lots of great Off and Off-Off-Broadway shows, too. I don't get to go as much as I like because of cost and time, but I'm thrilled we have the option.
- The Zoos. The WCS membership is the best bargain in NYC - tons of entertainment for one low price. The Bronx Zoo is my favorite (and figures largely in my fiction) - when I go I typically get there when it opens and stay until it closes and still don't see it all. I also love the Aquarium and the little zoos, too. When my kids were younger we used to go to the Mommy and Me classes at the zoo, which were great fun.
- AMNH. Best dinosaur collection in the world, wonderful exhibits on human evolution, biodiversity, etc. The planetarium. IMAX. All in one place, and you can get there by a subway that stops under the museum so even if the weather is bad it's a great destination.
- Eat :-). Wonderful options for both restaurants and food for cooking at home.
Seen any movies you enjoyed recently?
I loved the new Star Trek movie. I saw it twice, once regular and once in IMAX. I think it's a really cheesy premise, but it allows them to do lots of fun things. I thought the cast was great and it really put life into the old franchise. I loved how they made it accessible to viewers who had never seen TOS yet put in plenty of in jokes and references for those of us who were old ST:TOS fans.
I also enjoyed The Time Traveler's Wife. Well, I cried through much of it but that's part of enjoying. I had really liked the book, and felt the movie captured the spirit of the book well.
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