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June 8th, 2011
02:24 pm

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I'm Back
I spent the last few days in Minnesota hanging with family and some of my brother Joel's friends, after his death last Thursday night. There was no funeral or formal ceremony but a lot of time spent with my sister-in-law Felicia; Joel's daughters, Judy and Rachel; and my sister Sharon and sister-in-law Tina and nephew Ian. In addition, my aunt Fraydel and cousin Brenlea drove a whole lot of hours to come from Winnipeg and spend some time with us. And I met/remet some of Joel's friends. It was very sad, very hard. I'm still having trouble believing he's gone. As Uncle Ruth said, Joel's a force of nature - it's hard to imagine a world without him.

I am glad to be home and participating in the kinds of mourning rituals that work for me. I said kaddish for the first time this morning, and yizkor is tomorrow. Shiva is over because of Shavuout, but I'm going to have a shiva-esque gathering on Sunday. I'll show pictures of Joel and tell a whole bunch of stories in which he figures largely. I want my community here to hear how funny, loving, smart, gregarious, clever, and hospitable he was, and how much I love him. We'll also have a brief service. It's Sunday from 5:00 p.m. to 9:00 p.m. and anyone reading this who is in or around NYC and wants to come should comment or email me and I'll tell you where I live.

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From:stirsmn
Date:June 8th, 2011 07:08 pm (UTC)
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I'm glad you are home and able to do the things that will bring you some comfort. I hope you are finding your way through this very difficult time.
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From:mofic
Date:June 9th, 2011 01:13 pm (UTC)
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Thanks, Sweetie.
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From:fgherman
Date:June 9th, 2011 12:17 am (UTC)
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I am so glad you got to be with us. I'll be with you in spirit on Sunday.

I plan to say kaddish at the memorial/wake.

I can't believe it's been a week.
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From:mofic
Date:June 9th, 2011 01:14 pm (UTC)
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I know you will. We'll be thinking of you and the girls.
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From:davidfcooper
Date:June 9th, 2011 01:05 am (UTC)
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*hug*
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From:mofic
Date:June 9th, 2011 01:14 pm (UTC)
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Thank you.
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From:kestrelsparhawk
Date:June 9th, 2011 02:52 am (UTC)
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I'm glad you've planned some home events which will be meaningful to you. It was lovely to see you and talk to you, even in such sad circumstances. The gathering sounds perfect.
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From:mofic
Date:June 9th, 2011 01:15 pm (UTC)
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It was great seeing you, Sandy. Thanks for taking me to the airport. I wish you could come to the gathering.
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From:ringthebells
Date:June 9th, 2011 10:19 pm (UTC)
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*hugs* I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.
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From:mofic
Date:June 10th, 2011 01:19 am (UTC)
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Thanks, Alice.
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