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July 30th, 2007
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Getting Back to Normal
I'm done with the funereal stuff and back at work today. I still have a lot of sadness, but that's to be expected. We had a lovely shiva minyan at my home on Tuesday night. A bunch of people from shul (plus a couple of non-shul friends, and my ex) came and I told stories about my father and there was a really beautiful service, too. I didn't know quite what to say about the estrangement (since certainly few in the shul knew anything about it) so I just said at the outset, "I imagine many of you don't realize this, but my parents disowned me when I came out at age 19, so I haven't had a relationship with my father for pretty much my whole adult life. I still loved him a lot and have lots of lovely stories to share." And then I told a bunch of them, many of them the ones I'd shared on lj.

C. and I took Zara to camp in Cape Cod over the weekend. We spent Friday night/Saturday with good friends in Northampton, and then Saturday night about an hour from the camp, in a motel, just to minimize the driving time on Sunday (it's 7 hours at least getting home, and C. and I both needed to be at work today). Zara was soooooo excited to be back at camp; she giggled uncontrollably the last half hour getting there. As soon as we got there she found her best camp buddy and they picked up right where they'd left off last summer. She'll spend two weeks sailing and swimming and singing camp songs. If past is prologue, she'll be recounting every minute of it when she gets back.

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From:mamajoan
Date:July 30th, 2007 04:07 pm (UTC)
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7 hours to drive from the Cape to NYC? You must drive like a little old lady. LOL. ;)
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From:mofic
Date:July 30th, 2007 04:15 pm (UTC)
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Doesn't it depend where on the Cape? We were around the elbow.

And isn't it kind of de rigeur to take a long time getting off of the Cape on Sunday afternoon when everyone else is trying to do the same thing. I actually *do* drive like a little old lady, but I wasn't doing the driving. It took us 8 hours, including stopping for dinner, and we thought that was great!

It took us 6 hours to get from Brooklyn to Northampton on Friday night, but that's because we spent a couple of hours at a Friendly's in West Haven, because Zara locked the keys in the car and we had to wait to be rescued.
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From:mamajoan
Date:July 30th, 2007 04:18 pm (UTC)
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Oh, you're right, I wasn't thinking about the summer-Sunday traffic. I haven't actually tried that in ages.

Sorry about the car key adventure. That's one thing I'm super-paranoid about and always have to make sure the keys are in my hand (not even in my pocket or purse) before I allow the car doors to be closed.
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From:mofic
Date:July 30th, 2007 04:23 pm (UTC)
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This was the second time it happened in a week! C. lost her keys just as we were about to leave for Connecticut for the funeral, so I had to rent a car (try finding a rental car at 4:00 pm on a Sunday). And then Zara did it Friday night.

I've twice locked keys in cars. The first time was when Zara was just a few weeks old and she was *in* the car. The second was a couple years ago and I locked them in the trunk. In both cases it was a rental car.

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From:talktooloose
Date:July 30th, 2007 04:18 pm (UTC)
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Life goes on! You are blessed to have a kid's camp excitement as a reminder of that!
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From:mofic
Date:July 30th, 2007 04:25 pm (UTC)
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Yes! A very positive and life-affirming thing. And girl scout camp is just so wholesome and so fun that you can't help but share in the joy of all those happy girls, when you're there.

It's very rustic - tents, not cabins and so forth. But it's in this absolutely gorgeous setting. And they have sooooo much fun.
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From:mofic
Date:July 30th, 2007 11:28 pm (UTC)
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Thanks, Carla. I've been thinking about you a lot these past few days. There are so many differences in our circumstances. OTOH, grief is grief and when you talked about missing your dad I really related to it, since I've missed mine for a long time. And now it's permanent.
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From:mofic
Date:July 31st, 2007 01:40 am (UTC)
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Mortality is a strange damned thing

It sure is. I'm not sure I'm convinced of my own, so it's hard to understand anyone else's.
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