Is M/M Slash Like Pseudo-Lesbian Porn Produced for Straight Men?|
Your sixth point - about how women imagine themselves as one of the men, or as a watcher/observers, whereas men tend to imagine themselves interrupting the scene - really resonates with me, and it's something I'd never quite picked up on before. (Perhaps because people often talk about women visualizing themselves as one of the men - which I don't do - and not about the other options.) That makes me realize why I'm often made uncomfortable by men's discussion to porn; the assumption that he will come in and it will be all about him must hit something in my "patriarchy is creepy" filter!
|Date:||January 23rd, 2009 12:48 pm (UTC)|| |
LOL on the "patriarchy is creepy" filter. I know what you mean and I share that a bit, as a visceral reaction. OTOH, sexual fantasy is to some extent always all about the fantasizer. The classic Mary Sue, where all the men fall in love with and are wowed by the author's self-insertion, is just as "all about me" as the guy who comes upon the lesbians having sex and they suddenly want him - just in a different way. And my guess would be that a lot of women who know better than to write Mary Sues still imagine them.
Of course a difference is that in real life there are lots of heterosexual men who think that lesbian sex somehow doesn't count or that lesbians just haven't met the right man etc. so the fantasy has a real life patriarchal analog that isn't there for Mary Sues, which contributes to the creepiness factor.