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Is M/M Slash Like Pseudo-Lesbian Porn Produced for Straight Men?|
One thing that appeals to me very much in same-sex smut is the equality of the partners, and by that I mean there are no male/female issues, no "men who have sex with women are fortunate but women who have sex with men are stupid and are being taken advantage of by the men." I can't escape that baggage; it's been drilled into me from single-digit age. When a man is with a man, though, his eagerness to flirt or fuck is amusing, delightful, sexy, a natural reaction to a partner who likes just what he likes. A woman with a woman is not at risk for pregnancy, is not at risk for having a man decide she's a slut and should be dumped as soon as he's got what he wants. Same-gender romance spares me all of that baggage, even if I attribute female qualities upon one of the males, even if I write unrealistic tender stories about male/male romance, even if for some loopy reason I prefer my female/female stories to be rape stories. While those issues may remain, I've still escaped the male/female dynamics that override so much potential for pleasure.
|Date:||January 31st, 2009 03:37 am (UTC)|| |
I've still escaped the male/female dynamics that override so much potential for pleasure.
That's kind of my motto in life :-). I'm only half kidding. I've always felt that one of the big advantages of being a lesbian is that we don't have established gender roles in relationships, so we can craft them for ourselves without having to think about whether we are enacting society's expectations of our gender or rebelling against them. It's kind of starting from scratch. So things that have gendered meaning in m/f relationships don't need to in m/m and f/f ones. Although of course we have our own gender baggage as well, and sometimes it impedes.
As one example to break the concept down into manageable chunks, I often bring up women's magazines and how so much of them are devoted to "How to please your man/get a man/make men notice you." Now, there's nothing wrong with wanting to make another person happy or wanting to find a partner, but they're full of all these tricks and tactics that translate to everything except "be yourself." Are men's magazines focused upon how to please a woman/get a woman/etc.? Heck no, they're focused upon their interactions with other men, including tricks and tactics but these involve how to get ahead in the business world or how to be the alpha male among their colleagues. It makes me unhappy.
::nods:: One thing I love in m/m slash is one of the partners being protective of the other -- not because the protected one is weak at all, but just due to circumstances. With m/m, I can just sit back and enjoy the protectiveness, and it doesn't have any of the baggage that it would have in m/f, at least if the man were being protective of the woman.
Yes, if the female were being protected, we'd have the internal protest of, "Hey! Why does she have to be protected, just because she's female and he's male? Pig! I hope she kicks his ass later!" Meanwhile we were just trying to enjoy the nice romance/porn!