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Is M/M Slash Like Pseudo-Lesbian Porn Produced for Straight Men?|
|Date:||January 31st, 2009 03:37 am (UTC)|| |
I've still escaped the male/female dynamics that override so much potential for pleasure.
That's kind of my motto in life :-). I'm only half kidding. I've always felt that one of the big advantages of being a lesbian is that we don't have established gender roles in relationships, so we can craft them for ourselves without having to think about whether we are enacting society's expectations of our gender or rebelling against them. It's kind of starting from scratch. So things that have gendered meaning in m/f relationships don't need to in m/m and f/f ones. Although of course we have our own gender baggage as well, and sometimes it impedes.
As one example to break the concept down into manageable chunks, I often bring up women's magazines and how so much of them are devoted to "How to please your man/get a man/make men notice you." Now, there's nothing wrong with wanting to make another person happy or wanting to find a partner, but they're full of all these tricks and tactics that translate to everything except "be yourself." Are men's magazines focused upon how to please a woman/get a woman/etc.? Heck no, they're focused upon their interactions with other men, including tricks and tactics but these involve how to get ahead in the business world or how to be the alpha male among their colleagues. It makes me unhappy.