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January 31st, 2009
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Twenty-Five Random Things About Me
This meme is going the rounds on facebook and I've been tagged a few times, but I am meme-monogamous, so I'm doing it on lj.



1. I live in New York City and it is the southernmost place I have ever lived.

2. I'm left-handed, very left-handed.

3. I'm one of six siblings and in birth order we are boy, girl, boy, girl, boy, girl.

4. I can't carry a tune to save my life but I have a very good verbal memory. So I know all the lyrics to lots of songs I can't sing.

5. I didn't own a home until I was 36 years old, when my then spouse and I bought a coop together.

6. I first lived without parents or spouse when I was 46, if you don't count a brief time in college (and I don't).

7. I write X-Men fanfic, mostly slash, mostly Scott/Logan.

8. I've been to India once, Israel twice, Ireland and England many times, Singapore and Japan and France once. That is the sum total of my overseas experience.

9. I'm severely myopic and can't see much at all without my glasses now, but I didn't need glasses at all until age 15, and as late as college I still didn't wear them all the time.

10. Until I was almost 7, I lived in rural North Dakota, in a small Norwegian American town. I'm told that when we moved to Connecticut my sibs and I were four little Jewish kids with Norwegian accents.

11. I'm a dual citizen - U.S. and Canada.

12. I was born in Winnipeg, which is in central Canada. My parents both grew up there, but I never lived there (my mother just went home to have babies). Most of my extended family is still there and I refer to it as my Ancestral Home Town.

13. I'm quite active in my shul. I've done a variety of things for/with the shul, including serving on the Board of Trustees and various committees, and chairing the Hebrew School Committee for a few years. Now I edit/produce the weekly newsletter, which I like as a volunteer task because I can do it at home in my pyjamas and don't have to go to meetings.

14. My first overseas trip was a "Teen Tour" to Israel when I was 15 years old, through a now defunct program called the National Bar Mitzvah club. You signed up for it at 12/13, sent money regularly over the next three years and then spent the summer in Israel when you were 15 or 16 (depending on when your birthday fell). The late 1960s and early 1970s were a time of such rapid inflation that the program was losing money and my year was the last one.

15. I'm a committed lactivist, although actual breastfeeding seems far in my past now. I breastfed for over 8 years, pumped at work, convinced my employer (after I was done pumping) that providing pumping and breastfeeding support to employees was a cost-effective move, and have met many of my good friends through breastfeeding activism.

16. I worked for several years as a volunteer on the first National AIDS Hotline. I sometimes think about how I spent Monday evenings in the mid-1980s listening to gay men talk about their sex lives and then used what I learned much later in writing slash.

17. I worked at La Ronde, the amusement park in Montreal that was built for Expo 67, for several summers in the 1970s, managing a souvenir shop. American tourists who were shopping at my store often complimented me on my English. I always responded by saying "Thank you, it's my first language."

18. I worked most of my career in finance, but I've been working in public health emergency management the past few years and like it much better. Unfortunately the pay is lousy. Fortunately (at least for now) I'm employed.

19. I love to cook.

20. I have never lived anywhere that had a television in the living room.

21. I watch very little tv (generally <2 hours a week and many weeks I never turn it on) and have seen none of the popular tv dramas or comedy shows of the last couple of decades. I've never seen a reality tv show either. I miss tv, but don't have time for it. I sometimes read fanfic for tv shows I've never seen, if I can get a summary of characters and plot.

22. One year my New Year's Resolutions were to watch more tv and to drink more alcohol. In the grand tradition of New Year's Resolutions I did neither.

23. When my kids were small, I found I had to have "favorites" of all sorts of things, things I'd never considered what my favorite of it was. So, my favorite dinosaur is a stegosaurus; my favorite animal is a dolphin; my favorite imaginary animal is a dragon; my favorite color is burgundy; my favorite food is lobster; my favorite drink is coffee.

24. I have really great number sense, which led me when I was younger to think I was good at mathematics. University level mathematics in general, and topology in particular, disabused me of that notion.

25. I had my youngest daughter by VBAC.



The original meme said to tag 25 people but I'm not going to do that. But I'd happily read and comment on this meme if anyone I know does it.

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From:mofic
Date:January 31st, 2009 09:50 pm (UTC)
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I don't think there's a breast-feeding issue with gay couples adopting infants. Adopted infants really have to have breastmilk substitutes, regardless of who adopts them. I don't think infant formula is an evil thing. For babies who need it - those who were adopted, those whose mothers died and are being raised by their fathers, those whose mothers have HIV or are undergoing chemo - breastmilk substitutes are a wonderful thing, truly livesaving. The problem is when they are marketed to and used by women who could be breastfeeding their infants.

I'm sure you turned out okay. There's a lot of parental choices made (assuming it was a choice not to breastfeed and that you weren't a baby in a circumstance requiring formula) where it's clear that once choice is the riskier one and the other the more beneficial one, but most of those risks either aren't realized or don't work out that badly. That's true of non-parental decision-making as well - much of what we decide in life is tisk/benefit analysis and it's probablistic, not deterministic.

When I was a child I never had a car seat (there weren't any), never wore a helmet while cycling (no one did), didn't get vaccinated for mumps or measles (there wasn't a vaccine), etc. And I was never hurt in a car accident as a child, didn't suffer any brain injuries falling off a bicycle, have no sequelae from mumps or measles. I, luckily, "turned out okay" on all of those dimensions. That's how probability works - some turn out okay and some get unlucky and realize the risks. But I have reduced the risks inherent in all of those practices with my kids. I've also, in choosing extended breastfeeding, reduced a whole slew of other risks...
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From:mofic
Date:January 31st, 2009 11:41 pm (UTC)
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Yeah, "extended breastfeeding" is not really such a precise term. It could mean more than the year that the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends as a minimum, or it could mean more than the two years that the World Health Organization recommends as a minimum. Unfortunately, in the U.S. only about 10% of babies get the AAP recommended minimum of human milk.

In any event, I think the research shows clearly that babies should have (if possible) only human milk for 6 months and human milk as most of their nutrition for at least a year. Benefits - intellectual, immunological, nutritional - have only been demonstrated for around two years, but that's not because it stops being beneficial but because nobody's studied it.

I believe the best model is child-led weaning and the ages at which children will wean varies a lot.

If you're interested in the research on breastfeeding a good starting place is the American Academy of PEdiatrics position paper, and its references.
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From:mofic
Date:February 2nd, 2009 08:21 pm (UTC)
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I should add that, in response to your original question, I'm very much in favor of gay men adopting. I know a lot of gay dads, most of whom brought children into their families through adoption (a few did surrogacy) and I think that's the most accessible route to parenthood for gay men at this point in the space/time continuum.

I think there are some real challenges to gay dads, not least of which is, as a gay dad of my acquaintance is wont to say, "Being dads in a mom world." I think that relatively few men do go ahead and have babies :-) but those who do are really up to the task ime.

I even have a gay male couple who adopts in my fiction. Northstar is not only Marvel's first openly gay character but also canonically a gay adoptive father, which is part of what interested me about him.
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From:mofic
Date:February 2nd, 2009 08:45 pm (UTC)
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Who do you have Northstar paired up with?

An OC, and a non-mutant. His name is Adam Greenfield and he works as a foreign correspondent for the Miami Herald. They meet through the mutant crisis in the Republic of Belarus.
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From:st_crispins
Date:January 31st, 2009 09:07 pm (UTC)
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Yay for left-handers!

I'm one too!

(and so is the president)
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From:mofic
Date:January 31st, 2009 09:51 pm (UTC)
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Yes! We would have had a lefthanded POTUS now either way, but I'm glad we have the one we do :-).
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From:partly_bouncy
Date:January 31st, 2009 09:46 pm (UTC)
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I did it on facebook too. :) Because I got tagged at least three times. I was wondering where the Canadian part came in. 22 is kind of funny. :-D
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From:mofic
Date:January 31st, 2009 09:53 pm (UTC)
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Are you "Laura Hale" on facebook?

I was wondering where the Canadian part came in.
LOL! Are you saying I talk about Canada all the time?

22 is kind of funny.

It is, but it's also true. When a lot of research on benefits of moderate drinking came out some years back, I found I don't drink enough to be moderate!
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From:lilacsigil
Date:February 1st, 2009 01:19 am (UTC)
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4. Me too! I can hear music perfectly well and I'm great with remembering lyrics, but I can't sing it, and now that I have arthritis in my hands, I can't play it, either!

18. You're probably better out of finance right now anyway! My brother (a lawyer) was working for Citibank and they fired over 2/3 of their workforce. Fortunately, he got another job in the legal department of another company (healthcare supplies), but unfortunately it means more time away from home and his young kids...and he only took the Citibank job because they were flexible with parents.
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From:mofic
Date:February 1st, 2009 03:13 am (UTC)
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Yes, I'm really glad that I'm not in finance now. I did consider going back and half-heartedly job-hunted a couple of years ago, but I'd just be out of work again now if I'd been successful.
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From:libgirl
Date:February 2nd, 2009 06:33 am (UTC)
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I get a kick out of reading these things, but I'm terrible at doing them myself.

Regardless, it was interesting to read, thank you for sharing it! :D
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From:mofic
Date:February 2nd, 2009 08:21 pm (UTC)
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Thank you for reading!
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From:thinking_lotus
Date:February 2nd, 2009 10:07 pm (UTC)
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that was fun, as always! I tagged a bunch of FB'ers who are not normally online and they did some lovely ones, too.
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From:mofic
Date:February 3rd, 2009 09:44 pm (UTC)
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I'm enjoying reading them on facebook, even if I didn't write it there. It's more content than you usually see on FB.
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