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HIV, in fanfic and in real life|
|Date:||June 23rd, 2005 10:24 am (UTC)|| |
Well, the Buffyverse (I can't speak for your fandom) is sort of the real world plus--the "plus" being vampires and demons and slayers. T
Yes, it's similar with X-Men movieverse. For me, that's a whole lot of the charm of the movies. The people feel real. They react the way I think real people would to finding they have superpowers. I find, as I've said elsewhere, that what keeps my willing suspension of disbelief going is making everything but the superpowers as real as possible. That's not in any way limited to sex. X-Men are based in a suburb of NYC and I live in NYC - when someone gets the New York stuff wrong it throws me out of the story just as much as if there's something unrealistic in the sex.
As to making condoms less anaphrodisiac - I don't think it needs to be preachy, but I also don't think it needs to (or ought to) be a constant thing. I think it's possible, and a good idea, to show people reacting differently to condom use, to have some people mind it and wish they didn't have to and some eroticize it and some screw up and forget.
Some people really hate them, and a gazillion workshops on eroticizing safer sex and/or using them consistently all their lives won't make them hate them less. (Aside: As mentioned elsewhere, I have a couple in my fiction who decide to stop practicing safer sex through a practice called Negotiated Safety - they're both HIV- and agree to have sex only with each other and to disclose any lapse immediately and go back to latex. Anyway, one of them thinks he doesn't like to top in anal sex. He finds out he just didn't like it with a condom - he'd never done it without. but I digress). OTOH, some people really do find them erotic after a while, through classical conditioning, if for no other reason.
I remember in the mid-eighties when men in my social circle started using them, one guy told me that he found himself getting hard in the dentist's chair! As soon as the dentist put on his gloves, the smell of latex went straight to his mid-brain :-) and from there to his genitals :-).