So I was going on, ranting I suppose, about some of the horrible clueless things people have said to me about my long term unemployment and an acquaintance asked, "Is there any good way to have this conversation? Other than offering a job?" She went on to say that she didn't think that not mentioning the job situation at all was a good idea, because it was too pollyannaish, but suggested that it was a bit of a mine field. I agree it is and humbly offer some suggestions:
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- Check in with your unemployed friends or family from time to time, even if they don't initiate contact. When you're long term unemployed it's easy to feel that any time you call someone up they're going to think you're asking them for something; it's easy to feel that no one wants to hear from you; it's hard to make the first move when your circumstances are bad and you feel like you're going to come off as complaining. It's very easy to feel that "nobody knows you when you're down and out." Make the first move, even if it means putting on your calendar "Call SoandSo" as a recurring appointment every three weeks.