ETA answers to cherrypin_up's questions, too:
Gacked from becky_h .
It’s an interview meme. It’s got five easy steps. Here they are, conveniently labeled with Roman numerals:
I - Leave me a comment saying, "Interview me."
II- I will respond by asking you five questions of a very intimate and creepily personal nature. Or not so creepy/personal. ETA: mofic tends towards not asking creepy questions and if a question is too personal, she will always accept “I’d rather not say” as an answer. ETAA: mofic does not know why she is speaking about herself in third person.
III - You will update your LJ with the answers to the questions.
IV- You will include this explanation and an offer to interview someone else in the post.
V - When others comment asking to be interviewed, you will ask them five questions.
My answers to becky_h’s questions behind the cut.
1.- Do you remember discovering slash?
Vividly. It was in the last year of my over-a-quarter-century marriage, although I didn’t know the marriage was winding down at the time. I’d seen the X-Men movie because my son wanted to go and I’m a good mama, so I took him and his friends on opening day. I was surprised to find myself totally captivated by the movie. I felt transported into a world where mutants are real. I wondered what happened before the movie, after the movie, in between scenes. I wanted more.
I looked for information about the movie and potential sequels. I found my way to fan sites and ultimately to fanfic. I’d never heard of it, but I immediately loved the idea. And I particularly loved the idea of slash. One of the things that had fascinated me about the X-Men was the queer subtext, the way that the mutants could be viewed as stand ins for queer people in our society. I was charmed to see that people were looking for and creating other kinds of queer subtext, playing with the characters. I was fascinated by the idea of slash, by the challenge of it. How to take a character who’s canonically heterosexual and make him credibly gay and still credibly himself? I wanted to give it a try.
I told my then spouse about what I'd found and how excited I was about this new interest. She said "You're reading that stuff?!?! And at work?!?!" in a tone that made clear she thought it a disgusting thing to read "that stuff." (The "at work" part she might have had a point on, I concede). I didn't tell her when I started writing it. No, I don't think slash ended my marriage. I do think that our very different views on this were reflective of some basic differences between us that had kind of crept up on us, over time.
2- What makes Scott/Logan work for you?
That’s changed over the years. What made it work for me initially were their problems and their differences. As I conceived of the characters, they were both deeply flawed human beings, in very different ways, in ways that made it impossible for them to understand each other. Each interpreted the other’s behavior through the lens of his own limitations. So, Scott thinks that Logan’s sexual peculiarities come from deep-seated closet issues and internalized homophobia, since Scott suffers from deep-seated closet issues and internalized homophobia. And Logan thinks that Scott leaves him and then has sex with Jean because that’s what Logan would do. They stumble along, somehow developing a relationship (of sorts) that is based on intersecting neuroses. Yet, under all those misunderstandings is a real need for each other. Each is getting something he can’t from anyone else.
Over time I found that it’s the nature of that need and how they challenge each other and change in the relationship that works for me. I think they grow as individuals and as a couple. It’s not a romantic relationship; it’s not a peaceful relationship. It’s a highly dialectical one, to borrow a term from my early Marxist training. And I’m enough of a dialectical materialist still to think that conflict can result in advancement. It also generates plot :-).
3- If you could travel anywhere, where would it be?
I’m sure I’d answer this differently at different times, depending on mood. Today I’d love to go back to India. I spent a month there many years ago and really just scratched the surface of what I’d like to see. I’d love to spend a year exploring and really getting an experience – instead of just a taste – of a country with such a different history, climate, variety of languages and cultures from the one I grew up in. A young friend/former babysitter of mine did her junior year abroad in India and I was profoundly jealous.
4- If you could be someone else a day (living, dead, or fictional) who would it be?
George W. Bush. At least daily I find myself saying “Is he really that stupid?” “Does he really believe that shit?” “What’s going on in his head?” I’d love to know, once and for all. Plus, maybe I could manage in a day to do something that would get him impeached.
5- If you could say one thing to the world, and have it be *heard* by everyone, what would it be?
“The worst thing about a bad experience is to learn nothing from it.” It’s one of my father’s maxims, one that makes up in meaning what it lacks in sentence structure :-). I’ve had lots of bad experiences. I try to get some learning out of them.
Answers to cherrypin_up's questions behind this cut:
1. Picture the first 'perfect woman' who comes to mind. Not anyone you know, some sort of celebrity or untouchable. Now, if you were both free and of the same inclination, would you go for it? If yes, a relationship or a 'long weekend', and why?
Oh yeah! This is a question? Perfect Woman is interested in me and I’m free and so is she? Who wouldn’t go for it! But even with Perfect Woman I wouldn’t want to decide up front whether this is a lost weekend or a full-fledged relationship. I’d start with the lost weekend and see where we go from there. Maybe perfection gets boring after a while. Maybe she decides she’d rather be with someone else Perfect. But, sure, I’d give it a try. The Perfect Woman who came to mind was Susan Sarandon, btw.
2. Where is the one place on earth that it would be hell for you to live?
Suburbia. I moved to the suburbs of Connecticut from rural North Dakota just before I turned seven and stayed there through high school. I fled as soon as I could and have never regretted that. I hate the sameness, the stultification, the sexism and heterosexism. I didn’t know I was a City Grrl until I moved to Montreal, but I’m never going back to the suburbs.
3. Movieverse - Rogue, Mystique, Or Phoenix?
To be or to do? Definitely not Rogue, either way. I think she’s Horrors of Adolescence personified. Phoenix? All that power – more appealing to be than to do, I think. Mystique, appealing on both counts. What a great thing to be able to just become anyone you want to be, for a little while.
4. If you could only have one kind of food for the rest of your life, what would it be?
Fruit, I guess. I’m not answering this in terms of what would sustain one nutritionally (there’s probably some nutrient-rich horrible power bar or something) but what I could stand to eat every day all day. I think it’s the one food I never tire of.
5. Who do you think Tops? Magneto or Professor X.?
Magneto, but the Professor is really the one in charge.
Thanks, becky_h and cherrypin_up for the interesting and thought-provoking questions. I’m using my Adam icon, since he’s the most frequent interviewer among my characters.