Gay Parenting 101: Coming Out Isn't Talking Dirty - Mo's Journal
Gay Parenting 101: Coming Out Isn't Talking Dirty|
|Date:||November 25th, 2006 06:49 pm (UTC)|| |
|(Link)|It seems that a lot of anti-gay people have this idea that gay couples don't do anything BUT have sex, and that's just stupid.
It is a stupid idea, and it's one that gets perpetuated by closeted behavior. It's not a coincidence that "Yes" to equal rights for gays in a variety of areas correllates strongly in polls with a yes to "Do you know any gay men or lesbians personally?" Everyone knows gay people personally because we truly are everywhere, but if you don't know that your colleagues and your neighbors and your kids and your parents and your friends and your kids' friends' parents are gay, then your only association with gay people is sex.
On the other end of that, my elder daughter who was of course raised in a gay family, thinks of being gay as about family structure first and foremost. She once asked me "What's the connection between being gay and sex?" as described here: http://mofic.livejournal.com/13962.html#cutid1
And, sadly, the people who most need to be made aware of gay people as just people are generally among the least likely to have it happen. I've had people tell me, in all seriousness, that THEY certainly don't know any goddamn queers, and my immediate response was, "Well, you almost certainly do, but they're sure as hell not going to tell YOU about it, because you'd firebomb their house!" (If I say it out loud, I usually substitute something a little less confrontational for the last clause.)