Circumcision in Real Life and in Slash - Mo's Journal
Circumcision in Real Life and in Slash|
|Date:||January 21st, 2007 11:46 pm (UTC)|| |
Personally (and I may be oversharing), I wish my parents hadn't had me circumcised. I don't really bear them any resentment, but had I been consulted I would've elected not to have it done. I imagine I'd feel much different if I was Jewish. It's such a part of the Jewish identity. I honestly didn't have any strong feelings about it until I actually saw one. I decided right there that no one is ever doing that to my kid. From what I've read studies have shown that the circumcisions performed by a mohel is apparently far less traumatic than circumcisions performed by a physician. But since I don't have that option, or any strong cultural incentive, I'd just as soon not.
It doesn't so often crop up in the fanfic I write, since I don't often write explicit sex scenes, but it is something I keep in mind when I read fanfic and it will often throw me out of a story if a character I've decided in my head should or shouldn't be circumcised (mostly due to the criteria you mentioned) turns out to be otherwise.
|Date:||January 22nd, 2007 12:43 am (UTC)|| |
It's not oversharing. I think it's pretty interesting. As I said elsewhere, some people have strong preferences in partners, and others have preferences in themselves. But the preferences are unpredictable - e.g. some will wish they were if they aren't and some will wish they weren't if they are. Some gay men and straight women prefer a circumcised partner, and some prefer an intact one. And since we don't know what our sons will prefer when they grow up or who their partners will be and what they'll prefer, we have to kind of make this decision blind. As I said, I think it's an easy decision for me because I'm Jewish, but if I were not raising a son Jewish I kind of think I wouldn't have done it, feeling that the medical reasons just aren't sufficient. And then I'd be second-guessing myself now that the HIV data is in.