What I Learned in My First Poll - Mo's Journal — LiveJournal
What I Learned in My First Poll|
"Slash can subvert the idea that sexual orientation, sexual identity and sexual behavior are consistent within an individual. Our society has a strong preference for viewing these as all one thing – you’re gay or you’re straight. But truly they are three different elements of personality and they interact in each individual differently"
I would absolutely love to talk more about this, as I myself have been dealing (or not dealing) with multiple personalities within myself for my entire life -- or as long as I can remember. For some reason I go back and forth with trying to fit into one box or another, then telling myself I don't need to fit into *any* box and that I can just like what I like and feel what I feel... but ultimately I end up feeling pulled back to the notion that I "should" fit into one box or another. I feel engaged in a near constant battle with my multiple selves.
|Date:||January 24th, 2007 11:02 am (UTC)|| |
I don't personally see a mismatch in an individual among social expectations for sexual orientation, behavior and identity as "multiple selves." OTOH, when folks are in the midst of figuring out where they stand on each of those continuums (a process we sometimes call "coming out") it can feel like that. For my Scott - and many people like him, minus the optic blasts - the struggle is to find a unified identity that's true to who he is and what he needs, in spite of social pressures to the contrary. The pressures are so strong that he's internalized them and feels they are part of himself. I'm not saying that's what you're going through, but it happens to a variety of people.
Anyway, if you'd like to discuss more personally, I'd be glad to continue via email.