LOL! Well, I think we do to some extent, and also I think I probably use it a few ways myself. In that particular case, that kind of romantic interpretation of the whole "healing semen" subplot had never occurred to me. I wasn't just disappointed - I was downright embarrassed by it!
Sometimes I think of "romance" as applied to relationships to be the antonym of "practical" or "down to earth" and in that way I think of S and L as having a very unromantic relationship. They don't have illusions about each other. And I don't think they know - or even think, necessarily - that they'll be together forever.
In a positive sense, I think of "romantic" as meaning loving and open to love and focussing on love and what it can do for you. I think "> this
is the most romantic story I've ever written. But I see it as such precisely because they *don't* know that they'll be together forever, or even for another day. They're both being so very careful with each other because the reconciliation is as yet very tentative and they both really *want* it to last but don't know if it will. So they're each very focussed on pleasing the other, much more so than usual.
I think of J-P and Adam as a much more romantic couple. They value love highly, they fall in love before they even meet, they often declare love for each other, they're very devoted to each other. OTOH, they're not (I hope) mushy; they're still capable of joking about love and sex. And for all of their declarations of love and their unarguably strong attachment to each other, it's their relationship that ultimately falls apart over a third party, something Soctt and Logan weather fairly well.