Some Further Thoughts on Realism in Slash - Mo's Journal
Some Further Thoughts on Realism in Slash|
Hey, whatever works for you, but I don't find straight society more accepting of diversity than the gay community. IME it's just the opposite - there's a lot more room for variety of expression of all kinds in gay and lesbian society.
I tend to hang around in fandom when I can, which tends to be pretty accepting. Though I've never been much of a joiner. I'm a lot more inclined to have a few close friends and ignore the rest of society as a whole, except to snark at it. It comes from being a natural introvert, I suspect. (I'm an INTJ, if you know Myers-Briggs.) My response to rejection tends to be mostly of the "fine, who needs you anyway?" variety.
The single thing is actually fairly seperate; I suspect that if I looked hard enough, I could find a fannish girlfriend. But really, I'm not sure I want a romantic relationship right now -- or maybe ever. It's not a "burned by the community" thing as much as it is a "my writing is my priority" thing. I'm trying to put in what amounts to a couple of hours a day to my writing, on top of the money job and school and family obligations, and sticking in time to see the friends I already have. This may change, this may not. But right now, I tend to feel that either being single, or at most a casual "friends-with-benefits" kind of thing, is the way to go. (/tmi)
I suppose it has a lot to do with growing up and being an outsider. Being part of the group has never been a big priority with me.