Life With a Young Adult or How Many 18-Year-Old Boys Does It Take to Change a Lightbulb - Mo's Journal
Life With a Young Adult or How Many 18-Year-Old Boys Does It Take to Change a Lightbulb|
|Date:||March 30th, 2007 10:37 pm (UTC)|| |
Oh don't feel uncomfortable. It is soooo good for me to hear that kind of thing. I was an overly responsible, overly adult kid and I *don't* want my kids to have the kind of burdens I did. OTOH, I don't want them never to grow up. I've given them much less responsibility than I had and of course I'm constantly second-guessing myself and worrying that I've over-reacted ad not given them enough. And it's very, very reassuring to hear about competent functional adults who were not completely competent functional adults when still in their teens.
I had a weird upbringing. Like everyone's, it was a mixture of good and bad. And given that I was completely on my own with no back up while still in my teens it's a really good thing I was a self-sufficient type. After all, I didn't have Charles Xavier to come and rescue me :-/. But it gives me a kind of warped idea of what kids are capable of. I try not to use myself as a model, but to some extent we all do.