Life With a Young Adult or How Many 18-Year-Old Boys Does It Take to Change a Lightbulb - Mo's Journal
Life With a Young Adult or How Many 18-Year-Old Boys Does It Take to Change a Lightbulb|
|Date:||March 31st, 2007 01:29 pm (UTC)|| |
And I hesitated to share this with you (in a couple of venues now) since you're someone who has actually *hired* him.
even the superefficient P has his moments.
anyway, I've found that I have to live with the way my brain works and use compensating strategies. It's not learning those that makes people bad employees and difficult to live with. I found that feeling proud of things I'm good at makes it a lot easier to apply myself to fixing the flaws. Also, sometimes I just need someone to take me by the hand and show me stuff that seems as though it should be "obvious."
Anyway, I know you have some issues about D & your others being too parentified but it's probably a good moment for you to transfer stuff and for him to start taking it on. I have a friend who started that with her eldest (of 4) who is now 22 and living with them (she's also a single mom) and it's really worked beautifully. But 4 years ago she was saying the same stuff you are.
Her situation has some parallels to yours because the other parent is also somewhat lacking in the area of responsibility etc. Not that I think anecdotal stuff is necessarily so helpful, because people are so different, but at the same time it can help to look at what other people are doing in similar situations and try to adapt it to your own.
Anyway, hugs from over here with my own adorable yet difficult boy.