Gay Parenting 101: Don't Children Need Opposite Sex Role Models? - Mo's Journal
Gay Parenting 101: Don't Children Need Opposite Sex Role Models?|
What I'd like to know is... are people who are clamouring for your kids to have male role models satisfied by Chuck and David? "Wait! We didn't mean gay male role models!"
Kidding aside, my take on the subject is that human beings look for role models to help us realize things that we already see in ourselves. If we are latent musicians, we will seek out information on the lives of musicians we admire to learn how we might (and might not) rebuild ourselves to be able to make music like that.
In conrast, I think finding roles for something as broad as "maleness" and "femaleness" doesn't really require much effort. Men and women are all around us and we learn from watching all the time. As with everything in life, it helps to be as widely read and travelled and experienced as possible because we then have the largest number of models on which to draw.
If a kid grows up in a very rigid and isolated society where there is a single definition of "male" and "female," it might be helpful to have access to other ways of living that might respond to things in that kid's heart that otherwise might not become fully realized. But in our media and culturally soaked lives, we aren't exactly bereft of variety. Your children certainly aren't.
BTW, I just looked up your brother's books and ordered one from the library.
BTBTW, Chapter 11 is 8734 words so far and I still have a bunch of scenes to finish. I think this might be one of those two parters I didn't count on.
|Date:||April 5th, 2007 07:59 pm (UTC)|| |
"Wait! We didn't mean gay male role models!"
LOL! Yes, I was sometimes tempted to reply that it's no problem, since we know lots of gay men.
Which of Joel's books did you ask for from the library?
I'm looking forward to your Chapter 11, or 11 and 12, if that's how it turns out.
Are you having a nice Pesach? Did you attend or give seders?
I read his wiki entry and decided D'Shai would appeal to me most. The Toronto library has many of his titles.
What do you recommend?
|Date:||April 5th, 2007 08:27 pm (UTC)|| |
I love D'Shai. After you read it, I have a fun story to tell about it, but I don't want to spoil it.
we'll chat after I read it. Gosh, at this rate, I'll never get to HP and the Goblet of Fire!
Currently reading Swimming in the Monsoon Sea by Shyam Salvedurai who I used to know back in a gay youth group when I was a gay youth.