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April 5th, 2007
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Gay Parenting 101: Don't Children Need Opposite Sex Role Models?

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From:hitchhiker
Date:April 11th, 2007 06:39 pm (UTC)
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that's a damn fine essay. assigned gender roles are a major peeve of mine, nowhere more annoyingly exemplified than by the term 'metrosexual' (seriously, wtf?). and parents who in this day and age give their sons more room to express themselves than they do their daughters, because girls need to be 'ladylike', ought to be shot. (also, do you get the impression that the "needs a male role model" crowd have the unspoken subtext "otherwise he might grow up gay" in their minds?)

oh, and i'm a big joel rosenberg fan, so i'm a wee bit starstruck to learn that you're his sister :)
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From:mofic
Date:April 12th, 2007 01:31 am (UTC)
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Yes, I do think part of the "needs a male role model" thing is a fear that homosexual parents raise homosexual children. I also think we've handled that one badly in a lot of ways.

I did a fair amount of interviews and public speaking with Q&A on gay parenting back in the day and we always got asked "But what if they grow up to be gay?" Most of my compatriots answered with statistics showing that our children aren't any more likely to be gay than those with heterosexual parents. I feel like that kind of response completely buys into heterosexist assumptions, as if it's a proof that we're good parents that our kids aren't gay! I always answered "But what if they grow up to be gay?" with "Wouldn't that be wonderful! At least some gay kids who wouldn't be terrified to come out to their parents."

I'm glad you like Joel's books! FWIW, I like to name drop that "Martin from Minstrels" is on my lj friendslist, so we all have our own definitions of "starstruck."
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From:joelrosenberg
Date:April 12th, 2007 09:57 pm (UTC)
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oh, and i'm a big joel rosenberg fan, so i'm a wee bit starstruck to learn that you're his sister :)

:)

It was sometime in the mid-to-late eighties. I was out at an SF convention in San Diego, chatting with a friend, Tom Galloway, by the pool, and a fan came up to say hi, and he was, well, clearly starstruck to be in the presence of, well, me.

We talked for a few minutes before he took his leave, and Tom was amused. After the fan was out of earshot I started to pontificate -- always a bad idea -- about how flattering but strange that was, and that nobody should feel that intimidated by --

At that moment, I quite literally bumped in Poul Anderson, whose work I had admired for, oh, about twenty years, but who I hadn't ever met.

"P-p-please to meet you, Mr. Anderson," I stuttered out. "You're my biggest fan -- I mean . . . "

Tom, I think, physically injured himself laughing.
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From:hitchhiker
Date:April 13th, 2007 08:47 pm (UTC)
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that's a great story, thanks for sharing it :) i was very afraid i'd babble the time i met pratchett, but it turns out my instinct is to go very quiet instead, and have to make a conscious effort to say anything.

eagerly awaiting the third d'shai book, by the way - d'shai is one of the books i buy several copies of to give away to people (keeping company with the likes of windhaven and katherine blake's "the interior life")
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