Gay Parenting 101: Don't Children Need Opposite Sex Role Models? - Mo's Journal — LiveJournal
Gay Parenting 101: Don't Children Need Opposite Sex Role Models?|
|Date:||April 12th, 2007 01:31 am (UTC)|| |
Yes, I do think part of the "needs a male role model" thing is a fear that homosexual parents raise homosexual children. I also think we've handled that one badly in a lot of ways.
I did a fair amount of interviews and public speaking with Q&A on gay parenting back in the day and we always got asked "But what if they grow up to be gay?" Most of my compatriots answered with statistics showing that our children aren't any more likely to be gay than those with heterosexual parents. I feel like that kind of response completely buys into heterosexist assumptions, as if it's a proof that we're good parents that our kids aren't gay! I always answered "But what if they grow up to be gay?" with "Wouldn't that be wonderful! At least some gay kids who wouldn't be terrified to come out to their parents."
I'm glad you like Joel's books! FWIW, I like to name drop that "Martin from Minstrels" is on my lj friendslist, so we all have our own definitions of "starstruck."