A few more stories about my father|
I don't understand estrangement. It leaves me feeling so confused when I think about your parents rejecting you, especially after reading this post about your childhood with your father. I really just do not get it. When I hear about children or other family members being rejected based on sexual orientation, I feel terribly sad because I value unconditional love and acceptance. I feel horribly sad for the victim, the one rejected and ostracized, but I also feel sad for the those doing the rejecting, ostracizing. None of it makes any sense to me. But, then again, I have my own list of family problems that don't make sense to me!
I really admire how you are so open to your family. It must be horribly challenging to continue to reach out to those who continue to reject you, but it sounds like the most honorable thing to do and I really admire you for doing that. It's so easy to be on the receiving end of any offense and say to yourself, "Well, if that's how they're going to be, then I will do such and such, too!", but you have kept yourself above that.
Again, I am sorry for your loss, for both your father's rejection and his death.
|Date:||July 21st, 2007 12:50 pm (UTC)|| |
Thanks, Rachel. It is very hard to understand.
What has motivated me to not act similarly - when, as you say, hurt could lead one to reciprocate - is thinking about the example I want to set for my kids.