The Interests Meme - Mo's Journal — LiveJournal
The Interests Meme|
|Date:||October 14th, 2007 12:10 pm (UTC)|| |
Yeah, I'm definitely not advocating it as an outlet either, but seeing how it was permitted when my siblings were little and then forbidden when I was little, I can understand how in the heat of the moment you could forget that. In a way, I pity her a lot more than myself, because the knowledge that "mommy is being mean to me" is much easier to take than "I am being mean to my kids."
I've got the same kind of temper my mom does, and there was an instance when I grabbed one of the kids at school by her wrist and squeezed harder than was strictly necessary, and it flew through my head, "My God! I really want to hurt her! What the hell is wrong with me?" It was a profoundly scary moment, this knowledge that a part of me not only could hurt a child but wanted to hurt a child. I was very grateful then to have laws and rules in no uncertain words telling me how wrong it would be to give into that wish even a little. I think if I'd been permitted to spank the girl, that would have been incredibly damaging, not because I would have hit her hard, but because it would mean encouraging something in me that should never ever be encouraged.
|Date:||October 14th, 2007 12:17 pm (UTC)|| |
I think making it illegal is a good first step, but it takes time to get it out of the culture. I do think that in this culture people hit their kids largely because it is allowed.