Confessions of a Lesbian Feminist Slasher|
To me, cheating on a monogamous relationship is having sex with someone else - it's not masturbation, it's not fantasy, it's not talking about sex, it's not writing about sex, it's not reading about sex, it's not getting turned on by written material or writing material that turns people on. But maybe I'm too literal minded :-).
I'll second this. I'm pansexual, but my life partner is lez and she writes and consumes slash erotica. It doesn't bother me in the least -- hell, I like the idea that when I'm writing a sensual scene, it's working effectively, so I couldn't imagine complaining that she does, as well. ^^