Mo (mofic) wrote,
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So What Exactly Is Sex? In fiction and in real life

This was kestrelsparhawk's idea. I hope she doesn't mind that I ran with it. It's another terminology post. I'm looking to see what people's views are of what "counts" as having sex. In all cases, assume that the behavior is occurring within a sexual context. So, the kissing should be assumed to be of a sexual nature (whether or not you consider it "having sex") and not just friendly/platonic. Similarly, penetration with fingers or objects in the course of a medical examination would not be what we're talking about with those scenarios.

It's check boxes, not radio buttons, so check off as many as you think count, as long as each one would be sufficient for you to label the activity as "having sex."

I'd like to get as many respondents as I can, so please send people here. The icon is a virtual truffle to thank you for participating.


Poll #1120155 What is Sex?

A and B are men in a m/m slash fanfic. For which of the following activities described in the story would you say that A and B are having sex?

A kisses B on the mouth.
0(0.0%)
A kisses B on other parts of his body, but not genitals.
0(0.0%)
A kisses, sucks on or otherwise has contact between his mouth and B's penis.
1(0.3%)
A and B masturbate together, but don't touch each other's genitals.
0(0.0%)
A and B masturbate each other - i.e. hand of one man on penis of other.
0(0.0%)
A penetrates B anally with his finger.
0(0.0%)
A penetrates B anally with his penis.
6(1.7%)
A penetrates B anally with an object.
0(0.0%)
A and B have phone sex: they masturbate while speaking on the phone and pretending that they are engaging in sex acts together.
0(0.0%)

A and B are women in a f/f slash fanfic. For which of the following activities described in the story would you say that A and B are having sex?

A kisses B on the mouth.
0(0.0%)
A kisses B on other parts of her body, but not genitals.
0(0.0%)
A kisses, licks, or otherwise has contact between her mouth and B's vulva.
1(0.3%)
A and B masturbate together, but don't touch each other's genitals.
0(0.0%)
A and B masturbate each other - i.e. hand of one woman on vulva of other.
0(0.0%)
A penetrates B vaginally with her finger(s)
0(0.0%)
A penetrates B vaginally with an object.
1(0.3%)
.A penetrates B anally with her finger.
1(0.3%)
A penetrates B anally with an object.
0(0.0%)
A and B have phone sex: they masturbate while speaking on the phone and pretending that they are engaging in sex acts together.
1(0.3%)

A and B are a heterosexual fictional couple. For which of the following activities described in the story would you say that A and B are having sex?

A kisses B on the mouth.
0(0.0%)
A kisses B on other parts of her body, but not genitals.
0(0.0%)
A kisses, licks, or otherwise has contact between his mouth and B's vulva.
0(0.0%)
B kisses, sucks on or otherwise has contact between her mouth and B's penis.
0(0.0%)
A and B masturbate together, but don't touch each other's genitals.
0(0.0%)
A and B masturbate each other - i.e. hand of man on woman's vulva and/or hand of woman on man's penis
0(0.0%)
A penetrates B vaginally with his finger(s)
0(0.0%)
A penetrates B vaginally with an object.
0(0.0%)
A penetrates B vaginally with his penis
3(0.9%)
A penetrates B anally with his finger.
0(0.0%)
A penetrates B anally with an object.
0(0.0%)
A penetrates B anally with his penis.
0(0.0%)
B penetrates A anally with her finger.
0(0.0%)
B penetrates A anally with an object.
0(0.0%)
A and B have phone sex: they masturbate while speaking on the phone and pretending that they are engaging in sex acts together.
0(0.0%)

A is a real person, a putatively heterosexual married politician. It is reported that he has done some of the following with a man named B. Assuming it's true, in which cases would you say he had sex with B.

A kissed B on the mouth.
0(0.0%)
A kissed B on other parts of his body, but not genitals.
0(0.0%)
A kissed, sucked on or otherwise had contact between his mouth and B's penis.
1(0.3%)
A and B masturbated together, but didn't touch each other's genitals.
0(0.0%)
A and B masturbated each other - i.e. hand of one man on penis of other.
0(0.0%)
A penetrated B anally with his finger.
0(0.0%)
A penetrated B anally with his penis
8(2.3%)
A penetrated B anally with an object
0(0.0%)
A and B had phone sex: they masturbated while speaking on the phone and pretending that they are engaging in sex acts together.
0(0.0%)

Would your answers have been different in the question above if A were not married?

Yes
22(6.4%)
No
322(93.1%)
It depends - I'll explain in comments
2(0.6%)

A is a real person, a putatively heterosexual married politician. It is reported that he has done some of the following with a woman named B. Assuming it's true, in which cases would you say he had sex with B?

A kissed B on the mouth.
0(0.0%)
A kissed B on other parts of her body, but not genitals.
0(0.0%)
A kissed, licked or otherwise had contact between his mouth and B's vulva..
0(0.0%)
B kissed, sucked on or otherwise had contact between her mouth and B's penis.
1(0.3%)
A and B masturbated together, but did't touch each other's genitals.
0(0.0%)
A and B masturbated each other - i.e. hand of man on woman's vulva and/or hand of woman on man's penis
0(0.0%)
A penetrated B vaginally with his finger(s)
0(0.0%)
A penetrated B vaginally with an object.
0(0.0%)
A penetrated B vaginally with his penis.
4(1.2%)
A penetrated B anally with his finger(s)
0(0.0%)
A penetrated B anally with an object.
0(0.0%)
A penetrated B anally with his penis.
1(0.3%)
B penetrated A anally with her fingers.
0(0.0%)
B penetrated A anally with an object.
0(0.0%)
A and B had phone sex: they masturbated while speaking on the phone and pretending that they are engaging in sex acts together.
0(0.0%)

Would your answers have been different in the question above if A were not married?

Yes
22(6.4%)
No
320(92.8%)
It depends - I'll explain in comments
3(0.9%)

In the circumstances you checked as having sex in questions 1,2,3, 4, and 6, does it matter whether either or both of the partners have an orgasm?

Yes, one of them has to come or it isn't sex.
17(4.9%)
Yes, both of them have to come or it isn't sex.
3(0.9%)
It doesn't matter. Well, it probably matters to A and B whether or not they have orgasms, but it doesn't matter to my determination of whether or not they had sex.
326(94.2%)


Comments and discussion welcome, of course. I'll do a What I Learned From the Poll post after I learn something :-).
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