So What Exactly Is Sex? In fiction and in real life - Mo's Journal — LiveJournal
So What Exactly Is Sex? In fiction and in real life|
|Date:||January 13th, 2008 12:06 am (UTC)|| |
That Hermione/Cedric example is a great one of how experience plays into the definition. Intent, experience, age, marriage - they're all contexts that legitimately affect how we view the sexual interaction. Does that mean that they also affect whether or not it *is* sex? For some people they do, for others not, and for some they kind of do on the margin :-).
Another contextual factor is what is the couple's experience with each other? Is mutual masturbation to orgasm as a choice to vary an established couple's sex life "having sex" while mutual masturbation in a new couple who for whatever reasons aren't yet ready for other forms of sex "not having sex"? I think some would say that difference obtains. Or, as I used as an example from my own fiction elsewhere, is phone sex with one's lover while apart different from phone sex with someone you haven't met? Yes. Is it different enough that the former is sex and the latter is not? Not to my mind, but some say yes.