So What Exactly Is Sex? In fiction and in real life - Mo's Journal
So What Exactly Is Sex? In fiction and in real life|
|Date:||January 16th, 2008 12:35 am (UTC)|| |
Re: One or two?
I really don't like the idea of defining sex by pregnancy or by disease or both. I think defining sex as what gets you pregnant is problematic for two reasons. First of all, as I said to you elsewhere, not all of us got pregnant through sex and we're not any less pregnant :-). But more to the point, reproduction is such a small part of sexual experience, even for heterosexuals who regularly practice PVI. Even if someone has lots of kids, even if someone never uses any contraception the vast majority of sex acts a person engages in a lifetime do not result in pregnancy.
And I think that defining sex by *disease* is even worse. Why should what makes it real sex be whether you can get sick from it? Why not think in terms of pleasure? Surely we can teach our children what behaviors - sexual and otherwise - are risks to their health without a taxonomy that says only what potentially transmits disease counts as "real sex." I really don't want my kids thinking that sex=disease and/or sex=pregnancy. I know that's the basis of a lot of what passes for sex education under GOP rule, but I think it's very wrong-headed.
I am totally, absolutely agreeing with you! I was not in any way implying that I believed such a thing (or at least I hope not). That was the report I got from M about what got defined as sex, which I think is what led to the really weird definitions of what counts as "real" sex. for them. Not for me. There have been times taking a shower with my partner definitely counted as "real" sex, and neither pregnancy nor an STD in sight.
|Date:||January 16th, 2008 02:40 am (UTC)|| |
Re: One or two?
I'm sorry. It seems I totally misunderstood your intent...