So What Exactly Is Sex? In fiction and in real life - Mo's Journal — LiveJournal
So What Exactly Is Sex? In fiction and in real life|
|Date:||January 12th, 2008 08:34 pm (UTC)|| |
Does any of that make sense?
Yeah, I wasn't really looking for answers. My questions were mostly rhetorical and the rhetorical point I'm making is that although in theory I take your point that it's up to the individuals to decide their own definitions, I think we all *do* have definitions we apply to others. And that the limits of our acceptance of others' definitions shows in those rolled eyes and thoughts of "Well he's delusional if he thinks it's not sex if it's same-sex" or whatever.
I see the particular compact that a couple makes about what activities to allow outside the relationship as separate from the "What is sex?" question, btw. M/m couples often have a compact that says all sex outside of the relationship has to be with a condom, but that doesn't mean they consider it not sex iykwim.
Well, then, my definition is as I filled out your poll :) I can accept others definitions without agreeing with them (and do, often), but I have a problem with people squibbling about definitions when they've been dishonest. It doesn't matter to me if my partner had sex or just made out on a couch, what would bother me would be the lying.
but that doesn't mean they consider it not sex iykwim.
No, but that's not an act, that's a sexual health precaution, so I don't see how that would be exactly the same thing.