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What I Learned From the "What is Sex?" Poll - Mo's Journal
January 15th, 2008
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What I Learned From the "What is Sex?" Poll

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From:talktooloose
Date:January 15th, 2008 06:55 pm (UTC)
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Your last full paragraph gets to the heart of my thinking. Why do we need to know if the act can be labelled or not? I guess only to vilify or applaud it, mostly the former. It is difficult to draw the line about what falls into the sexual realm. Depending on who I flirt with, it's silly or bonding or game-playing or actually a kind of sexual dance. It might be one thing to me and another to the other person.

We are busily sexualizing (through labelling and innuendo) more and more human interactions. My partner receives endless bulletins from his teacher's union warning him against ever, ever touching a student, even if it is a crying kindergarten child. We are so worried that any activity might be construed by anyone as equalling "sex" that we draw grotesque walls between human beings.

Any human interaction -- physical, emotional or intellectual -- has many components and nuances. Some of these components might be described as sexual. But to what extent is the sexuality present? To what extent is it imposed where it is not welcome? As with other aspects of interaction, we use our judgement, our maturity to make these adjustments in our behaviour.

An example of this is my experience of making profound new friendships. When I meet someone who will have a powerful effect on my life and with whom I'm going to be productive, I often experience an erotic rush. This usually metamorphoses into an intellectual and otherwise emotional feeling. Perhaps the energy of the union makes the sex meter shoot up briefly as do other meters on the dashboard.

Isn't it paradoxical how the hyper-sexualization of our society is actually a sign of our discomfort with our sexual feelings?
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From:mofic
Date:January 16th, 2008 12:41 am (UTC)
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Isn't it paradoxical how the hyper-sexualization of our society is actually a sign of our discomfort with our sexual feelings?


Well said. Sex and its function in society seems full of contradiction and confusion. Which is part of why writing about sex is so interesting - both in fiction and in meta.
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