And on a positive note - Mo's Journal
And on a positive note|
In heterosexual couples, women did far more of the housework; men were more likely to have the financial responsibility; and men were more likely to initiate sex, while women were more likely to refuse it or to start a conversation about problems in the relationship.
My observation of heterosexual couples is that couples who can afford to will pay a third party to do the housework (that's probably also true of gay couples), women manage the daily/weekly/monthly cash flow while men do the long term investing/financial planning, women initiate sex with non-verbal cues and men take it from there (likewise men are less likely to refuse sex than to simply ignore the female partner's non-verbal cues), and the relationship is a larger component of the straight female partner's self-esteem than the straight male's which makes raising the topic as risky for the man as is raising the topic of the woman's weight.
“Heterosexual married women live with a lot of anger about having to do the tasks not only in the house but in the relationship,” said Esther D. Rothblum, a professor of women’s studies at San Diego State University.
After age 40 women are more likely than men to initiate divorce.
We don't get to pick our sexual orientations. All relationships require effort, attention, and communication, though some may handle these better than others.